Drawing and holding your line
Let’s face it, having boundaries with people is hard. You may have difficulty saying the word ‘no’ or worrying that you will cause offence. It may be because you feel good when you rescue people or you have a need to always be liked by others.
Whatever the driver the practice of setting boundaries with people in your life can be difficult.
I am a people pleaser and because of issues with my self-worth I have struggled to set boundaries with people. The consequence for me was living with overload, burnout and feeling resentful of others.
Then I discovered the teaching of two Christian psychologists called Henry Cloud and John Townsend and began to understand what I was responsible for, and what was beyond my control. I learned practical steps on how to say ‘no’ and how to develop and hold my personal boundaries.
This is what I want to share with you.
Vicky is passionate to see others living an abundant life of purpose with a sense of wellbeing. She is a Registered Nurse with additional qualifications in Chronic Condition Management, a qualified Trainer and Assessor with experience training pastoral care workers, and founded His Heart Ministry Training. Along the way she authored 'New Life in the Mourning - hope when the relationship ends' and co-authored 'My Life! Health Living Journal'. Vicky has suffered burn out losing ministry and employment. She has journeyed to restore balance and now lives a productive, hope filled healthy life, albeit with a chronic condition. She teaches from a combination of practical experience and extensive knowledge. She is prone to tripping over words and objects!
Setting boundaries begins by understanding what boundaries are and how they work. A a key skill in setting boundaries is learning to say 'no' and there is an exercise in this course to practice that. This leads into recognising when your boundaries are being crossed and finding ways to create boundaries.
So let's get started!